“Hatred is blind, as well as love.” – Oscar Wilde
A Rose By Any Other Name Would Smell Like Marriage After 8 Years
I struggle with how I view love and what I think it means to really love someone.
There is a part of me that believes love is a “can’t-get-enough-of-you, throw-me-against-a-wall-as-soon-as-you-walk-through-the-door-in-a-hot-passionate-embrace” kind of exercise of emotion.
Then there’s a part of me that’s like, “If I can wear no makeup around you and not want to punch you in the throat for playing video games for 2 hours” then that’s real love.
I guess it’s really a balance between the two but, despite what you personally qualify as real love, I think most of us can agree it takes genuine work. No matter how much you love someone or how easy they are to live with, love requires patience, understanding, and a lot of compromises. And happy hour with your group of friends to get away on occasion.
And sometimes, it’s just being able to laugh til you’re about to pee yourself while you two are laying in bed at 3 in the morning, not being able to sleep and talking about that weird chick in human resources who wears the cat sweaters.
Here, a married woman of many years breaks down what real love is and, just as a warning, it ain’t necessarily all rainbows and roses, ladies.
Do you all remember the 2000 hit “What Women Want?” To refresh your memory (or for those of you who had better things to do than watch Mel Gibson pretend to be charming and not at all crazy), it was about a man who suddenly was able to read the minds of women everywhere.
It ended in him realizing he knew nothing about women (duh) and that we were a bit more complex than he had realized, as his brain and his “second head” graveled back and forth about whether he was capable of both respecting his boss and sleeping with her at the same time.
But really, they could have made that movie about an hour and 20 minutes shorter by just ending it with women everywhere shrugging their shoulders and saying, “We don’t even know what we want.” Because it’s kind of true, at least when it comes to dating in 2017.
Of course, there is that 10 percent who have been dreaming about their wedding day since they were like 5 and have every little detail about their future husband and marriage planned out. Then there is the 10 percent who have no desire to ever settle down and people look at them like something traumatic must have happened to them because of it (which is bologna cuz maybe –just MAYBE–some people just don’t want to settle down and there’s nothing psychologically wrong with that).
And then there the rest of us who fit somewhere in between those two worlds.
With sexual fluidity and openness being more accepted today and women claiming their feministic rights to sleep with men (or women) with no strings attached, what women want can be rather confusing. Both to outsiders and to themselves. Add to the fact that websites like Tinder, Grindr, Bumble, and Casual Encounters on Craig’s List target people who just want to hook up and the dating game can be quite confusing. Just ask this writer who expresses her attempts to understand the guy she is currently seeing… errrrr, sleeping with.
DIY GIANT KIT KAT – ft. Game of Thrones… sorta
Growing up Kit Kats were some of my favorite candy to get while Trick or Treating. Unfortunately, adults without children are not welcomed in the Trick or Treat circle. No worries though because this year I will be making my own giant kit kat!
Watch this video to learn how to make your own