“As the twig is bent the tree inclines.” – Virgil
When we meet someone for the first time, we usually have a gut instinct on whether we’re going to like them or not. You may think you’re not the type to immediately judge someone, but you are. We all are.
As humans, we are biologically wired to make quick decisions on whether a person is a risk to us or not. In the caveman days, this instinct was necessary to survive. Now, we use it more to decide if we want to spend time with a stranger.
You probably don’t even realize you’re making preemptive conclusions about a person when you’re meeting them. Most of it is on a subconscious level. Conversely, that same stranger is judging YOU based on things like how you’re standing, what you’re doing with your arms, and the inflection of your voice.
Being aware of how these nuances influence potential suitors, employers, or friends is really important to how successful you are in life. Here are a few subtle things you can do to help give you the upper hand in any social situation.
It doesn’t take a freakin’ genius to know what attracts the average man. Of course, there are outliers who don’t care about looks or have different views on what constitutes beauty. But for the most part, society has spoken and Hollywood, advertisers, and the media have made sure to groom these ridiculously high expectations into the fabric of our culture.
No matter how archaic or unfair I may find some of these standards, I can’t say all the fault rests squarely on the shoulders of men. Us women are certainly guilty of criticizing each other. Sometimes, the expectations we put on ourselves and one another are far more toxic than those of any man.
Plus, you can’t just rewire biology. Like it or not, a lot of traits both men and women are attracted to aren’t even on a conscious level. Our biology has us hardwired to look for certain things and it almost always has to do with breeding healthy offspring and ensuring survival.
Yes, that even applies to men who don’t want to procreate. It’s the same reason why “MILFs” in porn and movies are never average-weight, unshaven women with saggy boobs and bags under their eyes (because that’s what an ACTUAL mom looks like).
On TV, MILFs are thin, fresh-faced, perky bombshells because, even when men want older women, they still expect her to look a certain way.
Blame it on biology. Blame it on unfair standards. It’s not going to really change the fact that people will always have “a type.” It’s just kind of the way the cookie crumbles.
If you’re interested in knowing science’s explanation as to why men are attracted to certain characteristics, this article explains a lot.
But, as a fair warning to my female readers, it’s mostly things you have no control over unless you have a really good plastic surgeon.
So you keep doing you, boo.
Women Are Always Cold
When your office thermostat has to be set at 80 degrees because your female coworkers never can agree on the right temp…
Watch the hilarious clip here