“I used to do drugs. I still do, but I used to, too.” – Mitch Hedberg
It Takes A Village
Our articles at Nightcap usually try to be fairly lighthearted and fun, but every once in awhile we have to get kinda deep because, when you have a voice, you should use it. Right?
For example, this one woman’s experience regarding an interaction between a mom and child hit a nerve with me.
I have been saying this for YEARS now, but it’s even more obvious recently now that my son is two.
Before becoming a mom and before having a sister-in-law with SEVERE autism, I was your typical know-it-all observer when it came to kids misbehaving in public. A child having a meltdown was ALWAYS indicative of lazy or bad parenting. Either the mom didn’t spank the kid enough or she spoiled the kid too much or she just didn’t spend enough time with him. Those are the only explanations, right? Now, I know better.
Yes, there are bad parents out there. But there are also a lot of overworked, overtired parents that may be dealing with their own set of hurdles. There are also a significant amount of kids dealing with mental disorders. And lastly, there are a lot of toddlers out there and anyone that has ever raised a toddler knows full well that sometimes trying to get one of them to calm down is like trying to reason with a knife-wielding meth head. You just don’t.
If it takes a village to raise a child, then BE that village. Offer a hand or kind words or an assuring smile. Hell, offer that mama or dad a drink! Be proactive, not reactive!
This one woman’s story should be a lesson in kindness and patience for all of us.
Facebook has completely changed the face of social interaction, in some ways expanding the accessibility and ease with which we communicate with others.
But it has also hindered social development in many ways. Rational discourse has taken a backseat to heated debate, often resulting in name calling. We have voluntarily isolated ourselves from people of differing opinion simply by hitting the “block” button. We feel like we “know someone” by the memes they post and the pictures they use, even when we couldn’t tell you what they do for a living or where they grew up.
Facebook has emboldened us, but not necessarily in a good way.
What if we were to act like this in real life? What if you could actually “poke” someone on the street? Or just give someone a “frowny face” when they told you their grandma passed, then just walk away? Or call someone a communist idiot snowflake in the checkout line because she’s wearing a Bernie Sanders t-shirt?
If Facebook were a bar, would it look something like this?
The world was recently shaken by news of Anthony Bourdain’s suicide. Here is one of the many beautiful tributes to the legendary chef. RIP, beautiful soul.