We Are Our Own Worst Enemies

The Nightcap

Nightcap for 03/15/2019


“Life beats down and crushes the soul and art reminds you that you have one.” – Stella Adler

Suspicious Minds

Have you ever been really wronged or betrayed by someone, only to have forgiven that person and have the new relationship be significantly more capricious and erratic than ever before?

If so, you are not alone.

Let’s say your significant other cheated on you. You found this out based on suspicious behavior and red flags you couldn’t ignore. Maybe she was hiding texts or staying at work way beyond her typical, scheduled hours.

You confront her, she admits, then you both actively make concessions to work on the relationship. Let’s say she sticks to her word that she won’t ever cheat again, and she stops with odd behavior that indicates otherwise.

There is a pretty good chance you’ll start purposely looking for guileful signs and behavioral patterns that she’s cheating again, even if she is doing nothing that should be raising alarms. In other words, you have trained yourself to be suspicious of problems where they no longer exist.

Part of that is just because trust was broken. But, according to this research study, a large reason we look for issues that aren’t actually there is that we’re neurologically trained to.

Here’s why.

Population Control

I’m not sure where you live, but down where I resign in good Ol’ South Florida, traffic is a nightmare. For starters, it’s incessant. Getting anywhere (particularly during rush hour) practically requires a survival kit cuz you feel like you’re in the apocalypse where everyone is trying to escape some asteroid or zombie outbreak.

To make matters exponentially worse, everyone down here is so damn “horn honking” happy, so I’ve decided I’m going to one-up the game and start carrying around a bullhorn with me – even when I’m walking.

Taking too long to get your coupon out in the checkout line? Hoooooonk! Accidentally walk in front of me on the sidewalk?! You’re gonna get a blast to the face! Little kid drops his milk box and makes me go around him? I’ll lay my blow horn on those little ears so damn hard! Old people stopping to ask for directions? Don’t think so, old geezer! Have the audacity to zone out for a second at the bank? NOT ON MY WATCH, NANCY!

Okay, so maybe a bullhorn is a bit excessive. Perhaps these CBD darts are a less intrusive and effective way to go? At the very least, they’ll get your annoying coworker to shut up for a few hours.

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